Be careful of well meaning friends

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Not so long ago I was experiencing much pain in my left Achilles. It was induced by my own foolishness (running too many miles in one single week, trying to fast track my training for a marathon)

I had a great meal with a friend of mine. He is a clinician and when I told him about my story his immediate diagnosis was a tear in the tendon. He went on to tell me how such an injury can end my running career and how one day I could still be running and then I would just hear the pop of a torn tendon snapping all the way.

He had me worried for a few seconds only

My default setting is to be wise but to always expect the best—not the worst. I did not receive his input

Recently I celebrated my healed tendon (which just needed some rest; there was no tear) by running at the exact time I used to see the therapist that helped me recover. It was a Monday morning at 10h00. I think it is important to have these little celebrations of one’s victory at meaningful moments. It’s symbolic.

My Monday morning was not blue at all….Blue Mondays only exist in the mind of a negative thinker

The point I am hoping you will see is that sometimes well-meaning people will give you advice or feedback that may in fact be negative. Be very selective. Before you buy that advice because it comes from a friend or a trusted person, ask yourself first of all:

Do I have peace about these words or not? If you don’t have peace, think it over and look at all the other options first.

Do not tell your well-meaning friend that he or she is too negative. Thank them for their advice and say “I will have to consider that” Then move on.

Your default setting must always be to check what you believe, what you say and what you think—and keep it positive as often as possible if you are serious about living life by example.

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2011-04-14T04:23:29+00:00 April 14th, 2011|Education|

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