If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
—Desiderata, by Max Ehrmann
For whatever reason, human nature tends to compare all the time.
In my work as a holistic life coach I have observed how this habit has the potential to make many of us unhappy and discontent.
As a parent we may look at families where the teens never go through turmoil while our kids are depressed, used drugs to numb their pain, attempt suicide, use foul language, have multiple sex partners, damage vehicles and fail classes at school.
At work we see others get promoted while we are seemingly stuck in the same position.
When we watch TV or go out in public we see men and women with flawless features and then we notice what is lacking when we look in the mirror.
We see happy couples hold hands and we see it more often after we get divorced.
We drive through pastoral neighbourhoods where homes tower above lush lawns, and tall green trees provide privacy.
At night we post what we consider gems on social media, only to discover there are hardly any likes the next day.
We try to be truly helpful only to find whatever we offer has no demand. Nobody seems to notice or care.
A Course in Miracles teaches that a shift in perception is a miracle.
Perhaps today it is time to perceive our individual experiences as our own customized curriculums.
Let us then remember today the words penned by Max Ehrmann in 1927. Let us stop comparing all the time and be at peace with the notion that whatever we go through is what we are meant to go through for a reason. By coming out of troubles stronger, we grow and learn what we were meant to learn in order to be truly helpful. Always spin things in your favour and use your Divinely given curriculum to learn the right lessons.