Do you ever talk to a friend or a loved one and while you are talking they are busy doing something else? You sense they listen and hear what you say…..but….
You are not 100% sure they get what you are trying to communicate.
Recently, I got stuck at the LA airport and as a result “stumbled” into a little book that caught my eye while I was waiting for the airline to fix their broken plane.
On page 59 of Mitch Albom’s book (Have a Little Faith) I have the page dog-eared for future use. Albom shares a sermon his Rabbi gave in 1958. It’s a sermon we can still remember and use today:
” A little girl came home from school with a drawing she had made in class. She danced into the kitchen where her mother was preparing dinner.
“Mom guess what” she squealed, waving the drawing. Her mother never looked up.
“What?” she said, tending to the pots.
“Guess what” the child repeated, waving the drawing.
“What?” the mother said, tending to the plates.
“Mom, you are not listening” the girl said.
” Sweatie, yes I am” said the mother.
“Mom” the child said, “you are not listening with your eyes!”
That is exactly what I like about being a pediatrician. Kids teach us so much.
Here is what I tell myself when I meet my patients or listen to my wife: You have to get better at listening with your eyes.