“When you are in a storm, do not allow the storm to get into you”
These were the words I repeated to a patient of mine not that long ago when she faced major health challenges. I wish I could say that I came up with those words. They are powerful. However, they have stuck with me ever since I first heard them while attending Lakewood church in Houston
In life we will have troubles. It’s a given.
Here are 7 things I do regularly as I face my own troubles:
- Always be in peace. Worry cannot change a thing. Focus on what you have working for you more than what works against you. I heard someone say “Worry is like a rocking chair…it gives you something to do, but gets you nowhere”
- Be connected to a source. Managing trouble takes time, patience, wisdom, energy and faith. My Creator is and always will be my most reliable Source
- Have many resources. One of my favorite resources when I am tempted to fret or fume is a book still in print after it was written in 1912 (Dale Carnegie’s How to Stop Worrying and Start Living”)
- Be sure to have someone you can trust; someone who is always there to encourage you and give you objective feedback
- Believe that you have the ability to solve or manage most problems as long as you have a plan. It may just be that you have not found that plan. Keep on searching. When the student is ready the teacher will arrive
- Write down your problem. Leave it at times and return to it later, believing that the solution will come. Don’t figure out how and when. Just be sure there is a solution as long as you can get to the real root to begin with. The latter is critically important. In my work I have seen too many patients ignore the root of their problems, and yet they believe they will solve it. It is unwise to forget the root of your trouble
- Never give up or lose hope. We will never dream of not eating for years or putting breathing on hold. But too often we have excuses for giving up our hope. Never do that. Every tunnel has a light at the end. Hang in there.
Dale Carnegie may be best known for the book on How to Win Friends and Influence People or for establishing a course on public speaking which has lasted for almost 100 years (and will continue for many more), but as a retired Carnegie instructor, I can tell you that I have seen hundreds of students worry less and solve problems better. Carnegie lived his life by example. How about you?